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Is it possible to love someone else in a detached manner?
Maybe.
But if you say that you try not to involve yourself emotionally in a relationship, how do you know if it is love?
All because you're afraid of getting hurt.
I don't understand... how one can live one's life being so overly cautious.. so afraid of getting hurt..
Once bitten, twice shy, you said. Oh, I've been bitten more than once. Maybe I'm just a slow learner. But maybe that's just not the way to live life.
What's the point if you don't take chances? Where's the pleasure when you hold back?
Taking things one step at a time.. I understand that one..
Taking the time to test the water and to get used to the cold? That one I don't quite understand..
It was always to my understanding that it was always better to just jump in so that you get used to the water faster.. then you also get to have fun sooner.
I'm gonna shrug this off.
I am but just a small girl, after all.
Maybe.
But if you say that you try not to involve yourself emotionally in a relationship, how do you know if it is love?
All because you're afraid of getting hurt.
I don't understand... how one can live one's life being so overly cautious.. so afraid of getting hurt..
Once bitten, twice shy, you said. Oh, I've been bitten more than once. Maybe I'm just a slow learner. But maybe that's just not the way to live life.
What's the point if you don't take chances? Where's the pleasure when you hold back?
Taking things one step at a time.. I understand that one..
Taking the time to test the water and to get used to the cold? That one I don't quite understand..
It was always to my understanding that it was always better to just jump in so that you get used to the water faster.. then you also get to have fun sooner.
I'm gonna shrug this off.
I am but just a small girl, after all.
posted by Kim at 4:48 PM
7 Comments:
it's funny because I am cautious when it comes to falling deep into a relationship. I guess I wanted to just jump in, spread my arms and embrace the moment too, you know?
But when you know you're falling for the wrong type of guy, everything is no longer about JUST jumping in. *Shrugs*
I guess you'd realise you're playing a game instead and all you think about is how to survive while you're at it. Eheh.
You're right. I'm gonna shrug this one off as well. Its too much burden carrying, after all.
kim. i have a Q.
i'm in a relationship as well. we are goin steady, but lately i feel like there's no more warmth or fun in our rltnshp...like i cant feel that i'm loved like how i used to feel back then...sth like that...i'm not saying that i want more from my rltnshp, but i feel like things between us are slowly fading away...
i know this is kinda not related to ur post but i jz felt like asking you. why do i feel this way? i dunno the answer myself.
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pinknerd: but when you know you're falling for the wrong type of guy.. i should think it would be easy for you to stop yourself, turn around, and leave.
when i mentioned jumping in.. i never said you shouldn't first test the water. =)
willow: maybe things changed for you.. maybe you don't get to see each other as often as before.. maybe you're getting bored with the way things have been, without being able to do anything new.. every relationship needs something new now and again for it to stay alive, after all.
those are just my guesses.. it might be that you don't love him anymore.. but from the way you're reacting to all this.. i believe that you do.. but then again, maybe you're scared that you really do not love him. cos after that, who else might there be? i wouldn't know, of course.
you know you should always be able to talk things out with him. =) *hugs* stay strong, alright?
the thing is, we actually get to see each other more often nowadays compared to the time when we just got together.
and i'm not bored with how the things are between us. i know that we all need sth new to 'spice' up our relationships, but i'm contented(sp?) knowing that i have him in my life.
i do love him, i love him more than anything else in this world. what i'm scared is whether he still loves me or not...
i'm insecure, i know. but i jz cant help feeling that things between us arent that 'sparkly' like before. ppl change, i know too. but i cant feel his warmth...i dunno...i'm just afraid... =/
willow: then it's just your paranoia getting the better of you. if you still feel insecure, talk to him. but try not to make such a big deal out of it.. it's most probably nothing.. after that, learn to trust your partner. =) have faith in him, that he won't wrong you.
guess so... i think ive been thinking too much lately haha.
thanks for the lil advice, kim. it helps =)
willow: you're welcome. but if all else fails, you know.. you'll always have your friends there for you.
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